Comments on: You Were Terminated. You Suck.

By: tt

tt — Fri, 13 Apr 2007 16:00:55 +0000

I was terminated from the job rescently. Six months back, I complaint about my manager that he was rascist, threatning to me and harrassing, making bad comments. Company has to took action, constructive termination and new manager came who is his friend. Initially, went well but she was working on me and suddenly without any cause company has terminated me. I am not understanding what to do? Any suggestions…?

By: Fred

Fred — Fri, 23 Mar 2007 04:04:48 +0000

Jason,

I really enjoyed this one and the comments. You do see it in people’s eyes and how they speak about their former jobs. They need to realize how much that can hurt their chances in job interiviews, etc.

Take care,

Fred

By: Alex

Alex — Tue, 20 Mar 2007 23:59:21 +0000

Indeed. It has to be said, because too often people take it personally and dwell on it. As you say, it’s important to get up, shake off the dust and move on.

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FRACAT - Free Resume and Career Toolbox - Home — Tue, 20 Mar 2007 13:14:23 +0000

[...] Jason at JibberJobber posted this message about what goes through your mind when you’re been laid off. [...]

By: Kent Blumberg

Kent Blumberg — Tue, 20 Mar 2007 01:19:13 +0000

This topic came up this morning. I spoke to a group of executive job seekers in Houston. My topic was the new book by Tom Rath, StrengthsFinder 2.0, which stresses the need to become aware of your innate talents, and then focus on strengthening them. During the discussion, we talked about the loss of identity that often comes with losing a job. One of the participants suggested that knowing our innate talents might give us an alternate identity – one that was independent of any job – and perhaps help us deal with future role changes.

By: Alexandra Levit

Alexandra Levit — Mon, 19 Mar 2007 20:20:17 +0000

Great post, Jason. I also think that when people are laid off or fired, they should use the opportunity to re-assess their career path and ask themselves if they’re really in the place they want to be. They should also take the time to recover and do things they enjoy that they didn’t have time for while they were still employed.

By: billiesucher

billiesucher — Mon, 19 Mar 2007 18:15:08 +0000

This is a very important and timely topic — so many people are faced with losing a job at one time or another in today’s workplace. While I could write endlessly about this subject, I’ll just say a couple things about your post…a really good place to start in dealing with job loss is to deal with the ending. Celebrate the good things; carry forward the lessons, the relationships, the successes, and let go of the rest. Give yourself a chance to heal your wounds a little bit before you hit the streets again. Grieving is a part of the transition process. Try to find a “safe” someone to discuss with / work through the emotions, feelings to help deal with the loss, the transition. Remember the good, let go of the “not so good.” Recover, rethink, and rebuild. Build a solid foundation, once again, under your feet before you go forth. There’s a wonderful book written by Dr. William Bridges called “Transitions: Making Sense of Life’s Changes.” I LOVE THIS BOOK and its teachings — I would encourage anyone who’s in some form of transition to read it. It puts things in perspective and provides a framework from which to launch your future. Thanks Jason for this post!

By: Christie

Christie — Mon, 19 Mar 2007 18:01:12 +0000

I agree with the Restaurant Recruiter’s comment. Attitude is everything…. you have to shin from the inside out. Life goes on… move onward and upward or stay put in pitty.

Christie

By: Pete Johnson

Pete Johnson — Mon, 19 Mar 2007 16:13:02 +0000

When you get hit with something like this, everybody goes through some period of self-doubt. How could you not? It does happen to everyone and you do have to move on at some point. How long it takes you to move on depends on the person and the situation. I have to admit reading that “changing jobs 9 times” part depressed me a bit until I realized I’ve already had 5 different jobs in the past 14 years.

I have to slightly disagree about not sitting around to think about what you could have done differently, though. Dwelling on it to the point that it prevents you from moving on is never a good thing, but it is an opportunity to look for areas of improvement. Each situation is different, but thinking it was completely someone else’s doing is along the same lines as only blaming yourself. Neither extreme lets you grow. More than likely, it’s a little bit of both and now you can learn from it even if all you realize is “I didn’t see this coming and I should have.” On your next set of interviews, you are going to be asked, “Why did you leave your last position?” so you might as well think through the answer to that if nothing else.

—Pete
http://nerdguru.net

By: Daniel Sweet

Daniel Sweet — Mon, 19 Mar 2007 15:53:12 +0000

I was going to post an agreement here and a note to remember what is *in* your control and what is *out* of your control.

However, in true Dan fashion, the post became both long and extremely self-serving. So, I’ll blog on this topic tomorrow.

Dan