Comments on: My daughter cut her own bangs (related to your job loss) http://www.jibberjobber.com/blog/2010/02/05/my-daughter-cut-her-own-bangs-related-to-your-job-loss/ advocacy for the job seeker Thu, 09 Feb 2012 02:23:17 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.0.5 By: Favorite Friday: The Job Seeker Scarlet Letter? | JibberJobber Blog http://www.jibberjobber.com/blog/2010/02/05/my-daughter-cut-her-own-bangs-related-to-your-job-loss/comment-page-1/#comment-647681 Favorite Friday: The Job Seeker Scarlet Letter? | JibberJobber Blog Wed, 22 Dec 2010 23:43:58 +0000 http://www.jibberjobber.com/blog/?p=3192#comment-647681 [...] One of my favorite posts from last year started out with a story about my then three year old cutting her bangs. [...] [...] One of my favorite posts from last year started out with a story about my then three year old cutting her bangs. [...]

]]> By: Sharon http://www.jibberjobber.com/blog/2010/02/05/my-daughter-cut-her-own-bangs-related-to-your-job-loss/comment-page-1/#comment-647661 Sharon Wed, 22 Dec 2010 22:31:35 +0000 http://www.jibberjobber.com/blog/?p=3192#comment-647661 Great analogy! My daughter always tells me to "just 'let go.'" It feels so much better to be "free." Same with GPA for college students. When I told my niece (19 yo sophomore at Univ of Louisville) that I graduated with a 3.44 b/c Calculus ruined my GPA she said, "And what difference does that make now? You are living in your passion so IT DOESN'T MATTER"! ONWARD! Great analogy! My daughter always tells me to “just ‘let go.’” It feels so much better to be “free.”

Same with GPA for college students. When I told my niece (19 yo sophomore at Univ of Louisville) that I graduated with a 3.44 b/c Calculus ruined my GPA she said, “And what difference does that make now? You are living in your passion so IT DOESN’T MATTER”!

ONWARD!

]]> By: Blog Review — JibberJobber Blog « The Job Quest http://www.jibberjobber.com/blog/2010/02/05/my-daughter-cut-her-own-bangs-related-to-your-job-loss/comment-page-1/#comment-462903 Blog Review — JibberJobber Blog « The Job Quest Thu, 25 Feb 2010 21:24:20 +0000 http://www.jibberjobber.com/blog/?p=3192#comment-462903 [...] My Daughter Cut Her Own Bangs (Related to Your Job Loss) The Spouse’s Role in Your Job Search – I would consider this a must-read. Religions Role in a Job Search – During my husband’s job loss last year, there were some days that my faith was the only thing that got me through. Depression Clouds Everything [...] [...] My Daughter Cut Her Own Bangs (Related to Your Job Loss) The Spouse’s Role in Your Job Search – I would consider this a must-read. Religions Role in a Job Search – During my husband’s job loss last year, there were some days that my faith was the only thing that got me through. Depression Clouds Everything [...]

]]> By: Rich http://www.jibberjobber.com/blog/2010/02/05/my-daughter-cut-her-own-bangs-related-to-your-job-loss/comment-page-1/#comment-453732 Rich Tue, 09 Feb 2010 16:47:00 +0000 http://www.jibberjobber.com/blog/?p=3192#comment-453732 I love this story, Jason. Having raised a few kids myself, I can picture the whole scene. Even though I painted my sign (it was HUGE, fluorescent orange, with glow-in-the-dark letters seven inches high) nine and a half years ago, I still sometimes find myself reaching for it when getting dressed in the morning, say, or getting ready for bed. And when I'm looking at the job ads in my professional journal or revising my resume, it positively knocks at the closet door to be let out. Thanks for the reminder that wearing it is optional. I love this story, Jason. Having raised a few kids myself, I can picture the whole scene. Even though I painted my sign (it was HUGE, fluorescent orange, with glow-in-the-dark letters seven inches high) nine and a half years ago, I still sometimes find myself reaching for it when getting dressed in the morning, say, or getting ready for bed. And when I’m looking at the job ads in my professional journal or revising my resume, it positively knocks at the closet door to be let out. Thanks for the reminder that wearing it is optional.

]]> By: Tom Dezell http://www.jibberjobber.com/blog/2010/02/05/my-daughter-cut-her-own-bangs-related-to-your-job-loss/comment-page-1/#comment-453569 Tom Dezell Tue, 09 Feb 2010 01:27:34 +0000 http://www.jibberjobber.com/blog/?p=3192#comment-453569 I deal with people facing an unplanned job loss all the time. Many place the signs Jason mentions around their neck. When they do so, I ask them how they react to a friend, colleague or family member that has experienced a job loss. When I ask if they place such signs around their friends necks, they emphatically say no. Then I ask them why they feel they carry such a label when they are not working. Job losses are a blip on life's screen if you continuously look at the big picture. I deal with people facing an unplanned job loss all the time. Many place the signs Jason mentions around their neck. When they do so, I ask them how they react to a friend, colleague or family member that has experienced a job loss. When I ask if they place such signs around their friends necks, they emphatically say no. Then I ask them why they feel they carry such a label when they are not working. Job losses are a blip on life’s screen if you continuously look at the big picture.

]]> By: Karl Staib - Work Happy Now http://www.jibberjobber.com/blog/2010/02/05/my-daughter-cut-her-own-bangs-related-to-your-job-loss/comment-page-1/#comment-453449 Karl Staib - Work Happy Now Mon, 08 Feb 2010 20:32:51 +0000 http://www.jibberjobber.com/blog/?p=3192#comment-453449 A bad situation is never as bad as it seems. I've lived this scenario countless times in my life. I made a bad choice of roomates, fired from my job, or posted an article that pissed people off. After much reflection I've realized that each situation was a growth experience. Your daughter is only going to learn from this and become stronger. I think that's what life, career, and friendships are all about. Learning from them and applying the lessons to make us happier and smarter. A bad situation is never as bad as it seems. I’ve lived this scenario countless times in my life. I made a bad choice of roomates, fired from my job, or posted an article that pissed people off. After much reflection I’ve realized that each situation was a growth experience. Your daughter is only going to learn from this and become stronger.

I think that’s what life, career, and friendships are all about. Learning from them and applying the lessons to make us happier and smarter.

]]> By: Peggy Titus-Hall http://www.jibberjobber.com/blog/2010/02/05/my-daughter-cut-her-own-bangs-related-to-your-job-loss/comment-page-1/#comment-452922 Peggy Titus-Hall Fri, 05 Feb 2010 21:53:51 +0000 http://www.jibberjobber.com/blog/?p=3192#comment-452922 My career transition clients often ask me, "Is there still a stigma attached to being laid off from your job." I say a resounding, "No!" There isn't a person in this country that hasn't been touched, either directly or indirectly, by this economic crisis. For every one person who stigmatizes a worker who has been laid off, there are hundreds more people who have been there, done that, got all the t-shirts, and choose not to "hang" in a “loser” place. They choose to do what it takes build themselves up, recall the amazing contributions they've made to their previous employers and to the world, and go out there and shoot for the moon! I see career transitioners doing just that on a daily basis by sharing effective resources, potential job leads, and useful job seeking information with each other. In my cock-eyed optimism, I can't help but feel that, throughout all this, we are learning to support each other more in this time of need. Just like the All-State commercial says, we can look at this time as another great depression or a depression that made us great. I choose to look at it as a great time for us to step back, regroup, and return to the workforce stronger and better than ever. Just like your daughter losing her hair, Jason, losing your job was devastating but for only a short time. You’ve thrown away your imaginary sign in the imaginary garbage can and are ready to continue contributing to the world. And your daughter has moved on from the drama of the event and is back to normal. No doubt, she’s just as adorable as ever, of not more so! So much of how we view ourselves impacts how others view us. You can be proud when you look back at the contributions you've made in you career and prepare to tell the world about them at networking events, interviews, and the like. Just like you said: After a while…it just doesn’t matter. My career transition clients often ask me, “Is there still a stigma attached to being laid off from your job.” I say a resounding, “No!” There isn’t a person in this country that hasn’t been touched, either directly or indirectly, by this economic crisis. For every one person who stigmatizes a worker who has been laid off, there are hundreds more people who have been there, done that, got all the t-shirts, and choose not to “hang” in a “loser” place. They choose to do what it takes build themselves up, recall the amazing contributions they’ve made to their previous employers and to the world, and go out there and shoot for the moon! I see career transitioners doing just that on a daily basis by sharing effective resources, potential job leads, and useful job seeking information with each other.

In my cock-eyed optimism, I can’t help but feel that, throughout all this, we are learning to support each other more in this time of need. Just like the All-State commercial says, we can look at this time as another great depression or a depression that made us great. I choose to look at it as a great time for us to step back, regroup, and return to the workforce stronger and better than ever.

Just like your daughter losing her hair, Jason, losing your job was devastating but for only a short time. You’ve thrown away your imaginary sign in the imaginary garbage can and are ready to continue contributing to the world. And your daughter has moved on from the drama of the event and is back to normal. No doubt, she’s just as adorable as ever, of not more so!

So much of how we view ourselves impacts how others view us. You can be proud when you look back at the contributions you’ve made in you career and prepare to tell the world about them at networking events, interviews, and the like. Just like you said: After a while…it just doesn’t matter.

]]> By: Executive Resume Writer http://www.jibberjobber.com/blog/2010/02/05/my-daughter-cut-her-own-bangs-related-to-your-job-loss/comment-page-1/#comment-452879 Executive Resume Writer Fri, 05 Feb 2010 19:02:50 +0000 http://www.jibberjobber.com/blog/?p=3192#comment-452879 Jason, Awww. Love this post...and like your comparison to the devastation of losing your job. It's true. You suddenly feel as though your own value has somewhat diminished, or as if you are losing a bit of your identity. Cute post and I know your daughter has been reassured (like some job seekers need to be) how special she still is-- with or without her bangs. ;) Erin Jason,

Awww. Love this post…and like your comparison to the devastation of losing your job. It’s true. You suddenly feel as though your own value has somewhat diminished, or as if you are losing a bit of your identity.

Cute post and I know your daughter has been reassured (like some job seekers need to be) how special she still is– with or without her bangs. ;)

Erin

]]> By: Julie | Resume Services http://www.jibberjobber.com/blog/2010/02/05/my-daughter-cut-her-own-bangs-related-to-your-job-loss/comment-page-1/#comment-452863 Julie | Resume Services Fri, 05 Feb 2010 18:05:35 +0000 http://www.jibberjobber.com/blog/?p=3192#comment-452863 Melissa's right, Jason, you do have a way of talking about the pain of job loss in a visual way that connects people and touches their heart. The last time I lost a job, actually the only time I lost a job, was in 1987 and there are still moments when I tell that story that I get choked up. Stigma of any uncomfortable event catches up with us and we think all eyes are on us. We can't see forward, we can only see behind. I'm glad to hear that your daughter has moved on, that's what everyone facing job loss has to do, move on, even if it is only a baby step! Melissa’s right, Jason, you do have a way of talking about the pain of job loss in a visual way that connects people and touches their heart. The last time I lost a job, actually the only time I lost a job, was in 1987 and there are still moments when I tell that story that I get choked up. Stigma of any uncomfortable event catches up with us and we think all eyes are on us. We can’t see forward, we can only see behind.

I’m glad to hear that your daughter has moved on, that’s what everyone facing job loss has to do, move on, even if it is only a baby step!

]]> By: Melissa http://www.jibberjobber.com/blog/2010/02/05/my-daughter-cut-her-own-bangs-related-to-your-job-loss/comment-page-1/#comment-452780 Melissa Fri, 05 Feb 2010 16:19:30 +0000 http://www.jibberjobber.com/blog/?p=3192#comment-452780 My goodness, Jason. You truly have a gift for talking about the harder topics of job loss in a way that really touches people and relates to what they are going through. This completely encapsulates what my husband was experiencing when he was laid off. Thank you for sharing. (And I can totally see my four-year-old daughter doing what yours did.) :D My goodness, Jason. You truly have a gift for talking about the harder topics of job loss in a way that really touches people and relates to what they are going through. This completely encapsulates what my husband was experiencing when he was laid off. Thank you for sharing.

(And I can totally see my four-year-old daughter doing what yours did.) :D

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