I wrote about my own dark side at Depression Clouds Everything.
I also wrote about losing your identity (and other things) at I Lost More Than My Job 2 Years Ago.
Here’s input from Jeff, who left a comment on the I Lost More… post:
I lost most of what you lost and a large portion of my feeling of self worth as it drug on.
The first big change came when closely after my father passed I lost my job.
I gained a HUGE chip on my shoulder, feelings of anger, resentment, disillusionment and resounding pride… yeah pride.
When you should be humbling yourself to refocus and see whats wrong inside I went into the blame and criticize zone. It was everyone else and their companies I saw flaws with. It stunk!
I spent weeks and months determined to show them they were all stupid and wrong. What did that invested time, energy, anger and freustration get me?
NOTHING, in fact its almost cost me my marriage, my name, my friends, my family and my faith.
How did I let this govern my life? There were so many more things to be thankful for and so many things to focus my energy on while I was looking but instead I chose to self destruct.
My advice to all: DON’T GO THERE!
Work hard at truly building every relationship you can. You will find an opportunity, and sometimes in the least likely places.
Do things for the benefit of others too. You’re struggling but serving will calm your mind and build relationships with those that could become your next coworker, employer or employee…
… Its amazingly frustrating how so many woes of society right now are directly linked to this (crime, divorce, abuse etc…).
It’s a hard lesson to learn. Unfortunately, based on how job seekers are still treated today, many people have yet to learn this lesson.
Thanks for sharing Jeff.