Job Seeker Networking Mistakes

September 23rd, 2011

Yesterday I shared a post I wrote about my first networking meetings as a job seeker.

It made me think about my biggest mistake trying to “network.”

For a long time I didn’t get much out of the meetings, until I changed something.

My mistake wasn’t that I didn’t have business cards, or that my 30 second commercial was as bad as everyone else’s.

My mistake was that I went to those meetings with the wrong purpose in mind.

I was hoping to get filled, and get questions answered.

Week after week I went, hoping to get.  And I didn’t get as much as I needed, and I felt unfulfilled.

Then, I realized I should go to those meetings and GIVE.  I listened for opportunities to give leads, or introduce contacts.  I looked for chances to help, and strengthen, and encourage.

When I switched from hoping to GET to wanting to GIVE, the meetings, and the results, completely changed.

I finally looked forward to going to those meetings.

I made more meaningful contacts (since I was a giver).

I always left feeling fulfilled.

And I started to get more. I got leads, and ideas, and encouragement, in a way that I wasn’t getting before.

I don’t know what your mistakes are right now, but if you are networking to GET, I encourage you to take a few months and concentrate on GIVING, and see how that goes… see what’s different.

For me, it made all the difference!

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5 responses to “Job Seeker Networking Mistakes”

  1. Shane Smith says:

    I believe networking is a full contact sport. And if you want to play, you MUST GIVE. And it does not take long to spot the takers…..

    Networking is a lifelong journey – enjoy it!

  2. Sterling Bateman says:

    Spot on!!!!

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  4. Susan Cook says:

    Jason, how true and relevant is this. I’m sharing this with a local networking group that subscribes to the philosophy of giving vs. getting! Great post. Susan

  5. Marc Miller says:


    It is all about giving and sharing when you network. I just finished a series on balancing, cultivating, sharing and strategically networking that I would like to share.

    It can be found at

    Thanks for writing this blog.

    Marc Miller

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