Your Spouse’s Role in Your Job Search

November 30th, 2018

In 2010 I was inspired to write this post:

The Spouse’s Role in Your Job Search

I wrote this about 4 years after I got laid off because I had, by that time, worked with many job seekers, and was realizing that my personal experience with my job search and my wife was par for the course for almost everyone I talked to. That is, it is a very lonely experience, and we just didn’t know how to communicate during my job search.

We got to a point where we would communicate good news with one another, but the problem was that there wasn’t “good news.” I was running into brick wall after brick wall, with no real success. With all of these failures, with the lack of good news, I found that we weren’t communicating at all.

Not good for a relationship.

I wrote this post with 13 points and I am hopeful that it helps you recalibrate with your spouse during this exceptionally difficult period. I want you to take any of my points, and any others that you come up with, and then sit down with your spouse and have a real, open conversation.

The job search is not a time for a relationship to pause. I encourage you to keep the communication open and real, and realize that your job search is temporary, and hopefully your relationship will weather this hardship (and others) just fine.

Best wishes to you and your significant other as you navigate this very difficult period… together!




Recruiters (and others) Smell the Blood of Job Seekers

November 16th, 2018

I had a fascinating conversation with a an HR friend of mine back in 2006, the year I lost my job and started JibberJobber. In this conversation he said “HR can smell blood from a mile away.”

It was as if the world stopped turning because he called me out, and I had a huge epiphany. You can read the original post here: I Smell Blood!

A year later I wrote Are You Bleeding? because by that time I had talked to a ton of job seekers and a common theme was that they were all proactively bleeding. The things they were saying, the way they were saying them, was bloody. It should an immense amount of hurt and grief.

I’m not one to take that away from you, for sure. I went through my own period(s) where I had hurt and grief. But I had to learn that spewing this hurt and grief was keeping me out of networking opportunities, and keeping my friends and contacts from referring me into the right people.

You don’t recommend someone who has fresh wounds that are impacting their thinking into an important networking opportunity. It was like these people were bleeding, and not realizing they were stalling their job search.

It was a hard realization for me, but a super important one. I hoe these two posts help you.

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Veteran’s Day, Free JibberJobber for Veterans

November 12th, 2018

Today we celebrate Veteran’s Day. For JibberJobber, that means we send a reminder that we have, since 2006, given veterans a free year of our premium upgrade.

This is simply a “thank you for serving our country.”  I know that serving in the armed forces is not easy. You don’t do it for money. There’s a chance you could die, or somehow have a completely different life. Whether you come back with physical or mental scars, the experience changes you. I now that leaving home for months on end can be a significant hardship on you and your family, and have an impact on your career.

As owner and CEO of JibberJobber, the least I can do to back up my “thank you” is to give you access to our toolset, to help you in your career, networking, and job search.

Some questions we’ve gotten over the years:

Is this for young or old veterans?  Does it matter when I served, or which war I was in? 

I don’t care when you served. Vietnam? Yep, sign up and let us know and we’ll upgrade you. Leaving the military now? Yep, sign up and let us know.

Is this just for U.S. veterans? 

This is for any veteran of any country.

Are there any strings attached? 

No… we just want some way to know you are a veteran (usually a DD 214), sometimes your LinkedIn profile, and we take your word for it and give you the upgrade.

How do I get this? 

Just get a free JibberJobber account, then send us an email or a Contact Us with your information (DD 214 and/or LinkedIn profile)

Does JibberJobber get compensated in any way for doing this?

No. The military barely recognizes us (I’ve tried to have conversation at various levels and while people appreciate it, no one wants to step out of line and go to bat for us with the decision-makers that could put this in front of a lot more people, specifically those transitioning out right now). We get nothing but good feelings, since 2006 :)

I have lived in and around the military world for a long time and have a lot of friends and relatives who themselves or their parents have served. This is as much for my friends and family as it is for people I haven’t met.

And seriously, thank you for the sacrifices as you have served. 

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Sanity in a Job Loss

November 9th, 2018

I recently wrote the post Job Loss Grief Stages. While doing so I was looking for old posts I had written about this topic and found this post from 2012:

Dumb Little Man: How to Keep Your Sanity After Losing Your Job

Dumb Little Man, btw, is a blog with “tips for life.” Anyway, in this post the author (Lesley Knowles) shares six IMPORTANT points to keep your sanity while you are also going through the mourning/loss stages.

Depression in the job search is real. In fact, a post by me (a guy) on depression in the job search is my most popular post, with over 500 comments. My issue was that I was used to being very logical and linear, and depression was clouding my thinking. Check it out here: Depression Clouds Everything.

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Remote Workers *Can Be* More Productive

November 7th, 2018

This caught my eye because I’ve seen some situations where remote working is an utter joke:

Remote Workers Are Outperforming Office Workers — Here’s Why

The entire JibberJobber team works remote. We’ve been doing it since 2006. It’s really the only way we can do it because as far as I remember, none of us are very close (in proximity) to one another.

When I got my dream job in February I had to get a car and then commute 22 miles each way almost every day.  The commute was… not enjoyable. The only thing that made it okay was finding an awesome podcast… so now I was entertained and educated and inspired for about an hour each day (give or take). But, the amount of dangerous that I’ve seen on the highway is mind-blowing. Really, there are a significant amount of bad decisions made, and a lot of scary situations… every single day.

My preference was to save on the thousands of dollars of gas and wear-and-tear, and save my own mental stress by avoiding the traffic.

The article says the 3 reasons remote workers outperform office workers are productivity, teamwork, and presence.

I can see that.

However, I can also see a massive amount of abuse. I’ve seen remote workers who get paid but don’t really do anything. In my opinion, as a business owner, that is mismanagement on leadership’s side and dishonesty and even perhaps fraud on the worker’s side.

If you are a remote worker, or a job seeker (doing a job search from your home), let me offer two suggestions:

  1. Develop systems so that you are at least as productive as you would have been if you stayed in the office.  Maybe even schedule your work so that you are doing things that are best done alone…. quiet time for writing, analysis, studying, etc. Or, schedule remote meetings. If you have control over your deadlines and deliverables, schedule the best ones for your remote environment. Also, I have kids at home… I’ve had to establish boundaries for them to know that yes, indeed, I am working, and no, I can’t play with you right now. I’ve also had to establish boundaries for myself, such as not sitting in front of the TV with my laptop. As cool as that sounds, it is too distracting and really slows me down.
  2. Be accountable! When I started my job in February I was a little shell-shocked from my last corporate experience. One of the things that helped me feel in control was to send my boss a weekly update on my projects and initiatives. One of the problems in a creative or strategic role is that you could go weeks and months without much to show. These weekly emails were a great record for me, and for him, to know just what progress I was making, what I had finished, and what I was going to work on next.  When you work remotely I think this is more important than if you are at the office (although I suggest everyone consider doing it). Are you a job seeker? Keep a record, or notes, or a journal, or just put stuff into JibberJobber, and you’ll know that no, you haven’t wasted the last four months, even though it feels like you haven’t made any progress.

To the person who is stealing from their employer, not doing the work when they are supposed to be “working from home,” I don’t have any advice for you. I doubt you are the one reading my blog anyway. I think this happens more often than we think, and I’ll attribute that to a personal integrity + a management issue. Managing remote workers can indeed be tricky. If you are the manager, figure out how to do a better job managing remote workers.

What do you think? Are remote workers really that much more productive?  Or is it better to just brave the commute and go into work?



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“Jobs are temporary in the new economy” (Grow Your Own Beef)

November 2nd, 2018

This is part of the Favorite Friday serious that I started years ago. One of the benefits of having blogged regularly for almost 13 years is that I have a lot of great posts from over the years. My writing style has evolved, but the ideas and principles have not.

In this post, Grow your own beef, I talk about a “three part formula” for either getting a job or having career stability (in a world where it seems like no one has career stability). The three parts are:

  1. Have real subject matter expertise that the market currently cares about,
  2. Have the right credentials, if they matter.
  3. Have the right network, and nurture it.

Read my original post, where I flesh these ideas out, here.

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