As a followup to my post Uncomfortable Networking (which got tweeted and shared a lot more than I would have guessed), let me throw out another job search networking post.
In my job search, after I read Never Eat Alone and had some personal paradigm shifts, I grew to LOVE networking. Networking was FUN!
I wasn’t focused on landing my next job, which is stressful if that’s what you have in mind with each conversation.
I wasn’t focused on “what can this person give to me,” which is the wrong reason to talk to someone.
I wasn’t focused on wondering if I was best optimizing my time every second of the conversation, as relationships take a while to mature.
I was focused on learning about people (individuals):
- Who they were
- HOW I COULD HELP THEM
- and possibly, how they might be able to help me in return
Once I got over all of my initial assumptions about what networking was and should be I started to have FUN!
Yippee, whoohoo FUN!
I thought it was just me, for a while, because a lot of people I networked with were stressed, but my stress somehow subsided. I thought it was because I could finally see the light at the end of the tunnel, as I started to formulate my own income security with my multiple streams of income.
However, one day I was talking to someone and he said “Man, this networking stuff is really fun!”
He had gotten the bug, too.
He had started to concentrate on the other person, not on himself.
I heard this from a few others, and I realized that networking could be, should be, fun.
If you are not having fun, perhaps you aren’t doing it right.
Yes, I know the job search is beyond stressful… but I wonder if there are some things you can do differently to have fun in this period of your life.